Sometimes, even the best relationships can become adversarial.

Whether business or romantic, they slip from a partnership, win/win model where, when you win, I win, and when I win, you win—to an adversarial model where, when I win, you lose. And when you win, I lose.

The truth is, nobody wins when the relationship turns adversarial, when one partner becomes afraid that the other will get too powerful, or believes that there’s only so much abundance or happiness or success to go around.

So if you find yourself feeling envious or resentful of a colleague’s or partner’s success, ask yourself how you can move the relationship back to win/win.

Often all it takes is awareness and admitting what you’re thinking, and then you can transform the dynamic and get back on track.

Because the truth is everybody can win.

And life is so much richer and fun when we all do.